I have never been an overly fearful or anxious person. It’s not something I am accustomed to. This past year, however, has been one plagued by mom fear. Thankfully, by God’s grace I have overcome this fear.
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Right around the time Raelynn was born I started experiencing fear in a whole new way.
I think fear is very common in motherhood but I don’t want it to have a place in my life.
Don’t get me wrong I do think there is such a thing as good fear…kinda like a respect fear. There are times when your mom fears are part of your mom gut or that sixth sense. That feeling you get when you know something is up or there is danger ahead.
This type of fear is good. It helps keep us safe from harmful and dangerous things/people.
Joy Stealing Mom Fear
That is not the fear I am talking about. The fear I was experiencing was irrational, over-the-top, joy stealing, heart-racing panic and anxiety type fear.
I hated it!
Most of these fears were centered around losing my husband or kids in some highly unlikely tragedy. Social media and news stories didn’t help much either.
I prayed and prayed attempting to take my thoughts captive and most of the time that would work temporarily. But the damage was already done. Precious moments already ruined, for however brief, by my irrational fear.
I knew in my heart of hearts that I would be okay if any of those terrible things I envisioned happened. I would get through it because I have Jesus. But I still didn’t want to experience any of these pains, fears or struggles.
What Was I to Do?
I knew I didn’t want to live the rest of my life with this fear. I hated it so much! So, I began praying and seeking God on what to do. I would beg for Him to remove the fear from me. I know that fear has no place in my life with Christ and that I need to trust Him.
One Sunday at church during communion I began praying and asking the Lord to lift me from this fear. That he would remove it even to the point where I didn’t have to take my thoughts captive. I told Him I knew He had taken it to the cross with Him and that I had no reason to live in fear.
Instantly, I felt a heaviness lift off me. I knew right then and there that He had answered my prayers. Since that day I have had hardly a single fear, if any. I have felt my joy return.
Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.Romans 15:13 NKJV
Now I can enjoy the moments of my children’s childhood without constant stress and concern about the hypothetical what-ifs.
I am not a person who sits by and accepts things I do not like in my life. I am a doer and a person who likes to get to the root of the problem. For that reason I tackled this newfound fear and anxiety in my life.
Tips Attempted for Tackling Mom Fear
- Read scripture daily for encouragement and God’s promises
- Kept a list of verses focused on fear and peace on my phone to reference frequently
- Prayed like crazy
- Talked with a fellow Christian Momma who could hold me accountable and remind me of God’s promises
- Took communion to draw my focus to Jesus and His power over fear.
Nothing Apart from Christ
Ultimately, a lot of the stuff I tried was great and “right” but I was doing it in my own strength and I should have known better. I can do nothing apart from Christ.
I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.John 15:5 NKJV
It wasn’t until I prayed at church, completely broken, asking God to take it all that I felt release from fear. I didn’t get anywhere working on my own. It wasn’t until I let God do the hard work that I saw freedom and peace.
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.Philippians 4:13 NKJV
This has been a journey where I have had to offer myself grace. I could sit hear and beat myself up for having fear and a lack of faith and trust.
Or….I could turn and focus on Jesus who has already forgiven me and fought my battles for me. I choose to focus on Jesus.
Mom Fear Revelation
I had a revelation not too long ago during my time of prayer over my word of the year. I realized for the past year I had been so focused on the fear that I was fearful of fear. Crazy am I right?! I was so focused on fear that I failed to look for peace.
Once I decided to quit being fearful of the fears creeping in and instead focus on Jesus’ peace every time fear came then was I able to truly experience peace.
I would be lying if I said I haven’t had A SINGLE fear since then but the fears I have had are so fleeting and so few that they don’t even send me into panic. I cannot explain the freedom of peace that I feel.
If you are experiencing fear and anxiety be encouraged that Jesus already took it all with Him to the grave. You have freedom in and through Him. Is it easy? Not in our own strength but for God…absolutely!
Please don’t feel condemned or like I am saying if you struggle with mom anxiety that you are a bad Christian.
Quite the opposite actually. I am writing this to encourage you that if I can receive my peace and joy back so can you! Keep praying and giving it to God. Let Him do the work.
Bringing Mom Fear to Light
One of the big things I think that kept my fear going was keeping it to myself in shame for so long. Sin will do that. It likes to stay hidden in the darkness. It likes to take you down and make you feel condemned and alone. Bringing it to light and telling others is part of the process to freedom.
That is what I am doing here. I am bringing it to light before you. I want you to know I let fear consume me.
But no more!
Fear has no place in my life or yours. Let’s come together today and banish fear. Tell it you are a liar and I choose Jesus’ peace and joy.
I hope this has encouraged you or at least given you a glimmer of hope. I am happy to pray for you and with you (there is something extra special about letting others pray for you). Message me on Instagram or email me at Morgan@graceforthismoment.com and I will be happy to add you to my prayer list.